3 Ways the Good Daughter of the Narcissistic/Difficult Mother is Trapped

“My mother is driving me crazy!”

Does every daughter complain about her mother, or is there something fundamentally wrong with the relationship?

If mom is Narcissistic, Borderline, Histrionic has traits of these disorders or is insecure; her daughter, attuned to mom, frequently finds herself in the Good Daughter role.

For the daughter in the role of the Good Daughter, she is trapped in a dynamic that she feels… but just can’t put her finger on.

When is good for mom, bad for her daughter?

Let’s dig in.

A daughter who has been raised by a mother with serious psychological difficulty isn’t just bitching about mom.

Her mother’s needs trap her in ways that cost her dearly.

This destructive Good Daughter dynamic is often hidden.

Here are 3 ways this Good Daughter role is a trap.

1. The daughter’s attunement traps her in the role of the Good Daughter. She is the one who sees, feels, and senses when mom is upset.

Her closeness to mom and hypervigilance to mom’s moods may feel like love to her. Why wouldn’t it…